Sunday, August 22, 2010

Sunday Dinner, August 22, 2010

Sunday Dinner time again already? I suppose so, so I'll get right down to it.

As has been my habit a lot here lately, I'm not cooking Sunday Dinner this week. There are just too many unknowns as far as who might be here and how I might feel, so I'm gonna give it a pass this week. We will more than likely end up eating out somewhere, but it's also possible we may end up back at my place to eat a sandwich.

For those of you who'd like to participate this week, just mention your plans/menu in the comments.

I still don't have any test results yet, even after making another trip to my doctor's office to try to get them in person. I did however manage to get the test results faxed from the hospital to my doctor's office, so they should be able to tell me something Monday morning when I go for a follow up appointment with my regular doctor.

Let's hope anyway, or you may be hearing a small explosion from my general vicinity. This has passed ridiculous now and edged over into unacceptable. It was 2 weeks this past Thursday since I had the tests, and still no results. Ugh.

I'm feeling better overall, but still have some days better than others, and I still tire easily. I still have pressure in my neck at times, but that seems to be better and less frequent than before as well.

I'm sure the test results will determine where I go from here as far as any treatment or new drugs needed, if any.

On another note, I mentioned last week that I had more news to share, although I don't really look forward to sharing this particular bit of news.

To put it plainly, Lamar and I will be getting divorced as soon as we can get things in motion.

This has been a hard decision on both our parts, but we are both in agreement that it's the best thing for us. We are not fighting or arguing over the division of any of our things, we just want to make this as easy as we can for both of us.

Please don't think that I'm only giving you all the run around and I'm secretly hiding my suffering, because that's truly not the way things are for me. While this has been a hard decision for both of us, I'm truly at peace with my decision.

Lamar and I are still living in the same apartment as we look for a new place for Lamar to live, hopefully still in the same neighborhood, so that he can still be near Jessica and her family, and also still be near me and all his lifelong friends and neighbors.

Even though we'll no longer be married, Lamar and I have been together for over 25 years and will remain friends and more than likely still spend a lot of time together, just as friends instead of husband and wife, and we still share family and friends together.

My life will be changing in the coming weeks, and I am okay with that, I even look forward to helping Lamar get settled into a new place while I remain here in this apartment. Lots of changes coming in the near future, and I'll deal with it as it comes to me.

I need to get this published and get some sleep, so I'll wish everyone a blessed Lord's Day. May God meet all your needs and may you have enough to share, dear family and friends.

With much love,

23 comments:

amelia said...

What a shock!!!

I'm sure if you both have made the decision, then it's the right one for you both and I wish you well.

I read your post about there being more news but in my wildest dreams didn't expect this.

All the very best to you both in your life and your future and you with your health, Diane. I hope you get some answers come Monday. I'll be waiting too...

amelia said...

P.S. No cooking in this house either this week!!

Gigi said...

Wow - you know how to get my attention, don't you?! I am sorry to hear your news, because no matter the reasoning behind it, I am certain the decision was not an easy one to make. Know that you remain in my prayers. <3

Dawn said...

Wow. I don't know anything else to say!

fazzey said...

This makes me sad :(

Milady de Languor said...

I have no idea why I "knew" that this was going to be your announcement when you talked in a previous post about other "stuff" going on, but I did. Maybe one develops a sixth sense after going through it oneself. But whatever, you know that I'm in your corner and am rooting for you to get through all of this as painlessly as possible. It's always hard, no matter what the reasons or circumstances, but if a marriage is dead, it's dead, period. The two of you have been together long enough to know whether or not there's any chance of fixing things. Like a forward-thinking church minister told me back in the day, "God didn't go to the effort of creating you in order to watch you spend the rest of your life in misery. You went into the marriage with the best of intentions, you've given your best effort to try to make it work, and now it's best to move on. This is not where you're meant to be anymore."

Tons of love and massive cyber hugs to you, dear friend, and I have everything crossable crossed for positive news on Monday! xxoo

Lucy Stern said...

I didn't expect that either.... I thought that maybe Jessica was pregeant again, but I never saw this coming....

I think that sometimes people think a marriage is dead when all it is, is stagnent... Maybe it just needs a little nudge to push it back into gear... I pray that this is the best thing for you and Lamar......

Breakfast for dinner.... Good luck, Diane.

Lib said...

Glad you and Lamar can remian friends! :o)
Hope you feel better !
Love,Hugs, Prayers, Blessins',Lib

Mother Mayhem said...

Better friends than enemies. :o)

Prayers being said! HUGS being sent.

Sammy said...

Wow. What surprising news. I really hope you and Lamar are both holding up okay through all of this. My parents divorced after 26 years together. They had an incredible marriage, full of so many wonderful memories. That said, getting divorced was a very wise decision for both of them. Their lives opened up in ways they couldn't have if they had remained in the marriage. Sometimes it's the right thing to do. I hope nobody tells you otherwise, Diane, or makes you feel like you are making the wrong decision. Only you and Lamar know what's right for your marriage. You need to trust your heart.

I'll keep you in my prayers.

kkryno said...

I think that you both know wht's best for you and though I am surprised, I hope that if you ever need to talk about it just e-mail me at kevannea@hotmail.com. Much love to you and please just take it easy on yourself.

Love, Vikki.

Rachel said...

I think you shocked most of us Diane! I know this hasn't been an easy decision, and not one that you and Lamar have entered into lightly, so I wish you both the best. I'm glad you'll still be able to be friends. That means a lot.

For my dinner today I had fried chicken, mashed potatoes, and mac and cheese. Yep, KFC!!

You are in my thoughts Diane!
Love and hugs,
Rachel

Kelli Trickey said...

You will be in my thoughts and prayers, Diane, I know this must not have been an easy decision for you, nor one you underook lightly.

Best wishes to both of you and much happiness!

Kelli

Nancy said...

Well, my, my,my! I can't believe what I just read! I know what you're going through, as I've been down that path after 34 1/2 years of marriage. If I had known just how lonely life could be living alone, I think I'd have tried harder to make my marriage work. It's your decision to make, no one else's, so do think it over really, really well before you take that final step. I'm here to listen anytime, as are so many of your friends, Diane. My ex and I are still the best of friends and share all the holidays at each other's home, even share our birthdays! So it does work either way. I just hope and pray yours works out as well as mine has. The hardest thing for me is Christmas time....to come home alone and not be with him.....

What's this about you being sick? I am going to have read a few more of your posts to see what's been happening with you. I do hope you get some positive answers today from your doctor. Please post and let us all know...we care and love you! I think I need to get back to blogging again and keep up better with my blogging friends.....

LOVE the new pic of Jessica and Emmy!!! XOXOXOXO

((( HUGS )))

Ava said...

Sorry to hear your frustrating experience with test results. It is no fun to wait and wait and wait.

Sorry to hear about your divorce. I've been there. Stay in touch with friends and it will be easier to deal with. Even when it's what you want ... it can still have it's moments.

Mountain Mama said...

Diane my prayers are with you and your family. I am aslo shocked to hear the news. I don't really know what to say except that i wish you well and pray your tests come back ok. Stress can really do a number onus hon. Take care and know you have a lot of blog friends who love you dearly.
God's Grace

greeneyes said...

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love you and know you are in my hear and on my mind . wishing you good health and peace of mind always xoxoxoxoxoxox

BSH (squared and to infinity!!!)

Greeneyes

Meow (aka Connie) said...

Gosh, Dianne ... that is a shock ... never expected to read that. However, if you are both at peace with the decision, that is all that matters. And to remain friends is awesome. Sending you love and hugs xxxxx

Anonymous said...

Me too, my friend, shocked at this news as are all the others. I am wondering if stress has contributed to your recent bout of health problems? I pray you will be well...physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Take care of yourself. Love......

Anonymous said...

BTW, the previous "unsigned" comment was from me, V from Idaho. I did read your post on Sunday and you have been on my mind ever since; however, didn't have time to respond. Wow....again, thinking of you. v from Idaho

Jen said...

praying for you dear Diane

Pearl said...

Well I am saddened by the news but I believe you know what is best for you.
Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
I wish you all the best.
Hugs,

Linds said...

Just catching up and all I need to say is that you are loved, and a huge hug is on the way. You take care of yourself now.